Empathic Parenting A Way of Relating that Fosters Self-Esteem in Our Children - Kathy Caprino

Empathic Parenting A Way of Relating that Fosters Self-Esteem in Our Children Have you ever had difficulty determining when enough is enough with your child? Or questioned when you should draw the line, rather than be flexible and give in to his requests? I know I have. These are issues that all parents face regarding discipline and how best to provide the guidance our children need along with the love, nurture, and empathy they most long for. In working with coaching and therapy clients, and as a parent myself, Ive come to understand the deep complexities involved in being a loving parent while at the same time providing effective guidance and authority. These are not simple, easy, or comfortable issues. But Ive found that asking oneself the following five questions regularly can be beneficial in helping chart a course that is both loving and empowering for our children and ourselves. 1) When my child is acting up, what is he longing for on a deeper level? Often, a child acts up or misbehaves for purposes that are not readily apparent on the surface. Misbehaving can in fact be a childs way of gaining your attention and direct engagement with him. He may be craving your attention and love, and unable to achieve these in a productive manner. Sometimes, acting out is a way to distract parents from their own conflicts so that the attention is again refocused on the child. It can be a form of homeostasis, keeping the family intact and functioning. So, the key question here is: What may my childs misbehavior be saying that I havent yet fully understood? 2) Who is in control here? Do I need to set clearer, more consistent boundaries?Often as parents, our own insecurities about our parenting skills lead us to doubt our ability to control and question whether we rightfully deserve a place in this executive role. When this occurs, we typically lose our ability to be effective and authoritative. In essence, we have allowed our children to climb up into the executive position and make decisions for us. If you experience a sense of being out of control with your children and feel as if they are running the show, it is helpful to stop and examine your beliefs and attitudes around setting and enforcing guidelines. Are you consistent, and firm? Do you provide natural consequences when your children do not behave as you need them to? When we make an examination of our difficulties in acting authoritatively in our own lives, we often find beliefs and fears carried over from our childhood about ourselves, our parents, the nature of love, support, and self-assertion, that need to be re-examined. 3) Do I validate my child? Do I let her know that, while I may not agree with her position, it is a valid one to her and to me?What we humans crave deeply and consistently is validation-experiencing others support that our personal beliefs and actions make sense. Yet often when we struggle with our children, we invalidate them as we attempt to provide guidance about ways in which we wish them to change. We can discredit or undermine their behavior or thoughts, telling them they are wrong, silly, immature, or crazy. A different approach that builds self-esteem is to express and show that while we need some change in their behavior, we still understand and can relate to their position, and consider it valid. 4) Am I on the same page with my spouse so that the parental unit is strong and cohesive?In my work with families, one of the most common patterns to emerge involves one spouse unwittingly using a child as a tool against the other spouse. Why does this occur? When we feel in some way powerless to affect a desired change in our marriage, we can find ourselves using a child to side with us, or to be pitted against our spouse. In this way, we become more powerful and feel less alone. Further, when a child is acting out and disregarding one parent, often there are ways in which the child is gaining support in his struggle from the other spouse. The key questions at the heart of this dynamic is: Am I on the same page with my spouse about parenting and about our own relationship? If not, am I involving my child in any way, through conflict or direct collusion, to get back at my spouse? 5) What are my parenting goals? Am I fostering my childs own unique path or am I trying to make it in the image of someone elses?Finally, a very significant step in effective, empathic parenting is to ask ourselves the questions, and answer: What are my key goals in parenting? In the end, what am I hoping to achieve as a good parent? Is your goal to provide love and support, offer guidelines for development, or to foster the growth of a happy, healthy, productive individual? Or perhaps it is to create a loving, safe, supportive environment for your child to become all s/he is meant to be in this world, based on his or her own dreams, passions, energies, and goals? Whatever our answers are to these pivotal questions, the process of exploration is very helpful in charting our own authentic parenting course. Increasing our awareness will ultimately help us expand our choices as to how to react, communicate, and behave as parents. In the end, I believe that empathic parenting benefits and empowers not only our children, but ourselves, and future generations as well.

How Important is Your Resume -

How Important is Your Resume - Every once in a while, career experts get ourselves all wrapped up in the raging controversy: How important is your resume? The question is it key to your search, or, with linkedin and other online tools, is it as outdated as a rotary phone? In the past, marketing guru Seth Godins post suggesting that if you are exceptional, you dont need a resume, got everyone buzzing, and there is new buzz on the Career Hub site, with my colleague Deb Dibs post on the subject. I recently quoted executive recruiter Thad Greer, author of The Executive Rules, as saying that the resume isprobably the most important professional document youll have in your entire life. So, which is it? How important are resumes for job seekers? If all job seekers fully engaged in the type of networking that enhances their ability to use the pull, not push job search methodology, it is true that the resume would become less important as a first-line contact point. I advise my clients to participate in Web 2.0 strategies to pull interest from potential employers. LinkedIn has become the absolute must have online presence and Twitter is a terrific way to share information, network and yes, promote your brand. Facebook, when managed well, has a lot to offer as a third-line strategy. For strong writers, I suggest (1) authoring a blog and/or (2) leaving smart comments on blogs related to your industry. These are terrific ways to showcase your knowledge and expertise. Then, of course, there are all of the in-person networking strategies professionals should use to enhance their profiles in their fields. So, if you are good enough at using these strategies (or, as Seth Godin has said if you are exceptional), you may be invited to apply for or interview for a job before youve provided a resume. However, as noted above, most organizations will request a resume at some point in the process. The likelihood is that it will be at the same time they ask for you to apply. (As in We are very interested in learning more about how you can contribute to our organization. Please forward your resume to.) As noted above, recruiters clearly need to see a resume. Does all of this mean that the resume is less important? Ultimately, I dont think so. While it may not always serve as the employers first impression, it is still key to support the positive view a job seeker needs to promote. The fact is, most people will still rely quite a bit on the resume if they want to get the call for an interview. If you want to receive free up-to-date tips to help with your job hunt, Click here to subscribe to receive future blogs sent directly to you via email! Prefer to subscribe in a reader? Click here for a link to receive Keppie Careers feed sent to the reader of your choice. Need a great resume? Career search advice? Mock interview? Visit Keppie Careers online for information about our services: www.keppiecareers.com. photo by zen

How to Write a Perfect Spanish Speaking Resume

How to Write a Perfect Spanish Speaking ResumeWhen you are applying for a job, having the perfect Spanish speaking resume can be the difference between success and failure. There are a number of factors that contribute to getting the job you want, such as being highly qualified, understanding the company culture, and having the right attitude.Having a job on a company is not always easy, but there are positions where you may need to do the same. To get into this type of position, you should put a lot of effort into finding out how to do the job. There are a number of ways to become fluent in Spanish, but if you want to get an interview for that position, you will need to provide proof that you are a fluent speaker.A perfect Spanish speaking resume is important when applying for a job that requires speaking Spanish in order to understand how they work. Although this type of resume is not the easiest to write, it can be one of the most important. By providing proof that you can speak S panish fluently, you are giving yourself the best chance to land the job you are looking for.Creating a resume can seem like a very daunting task, but when you put in the effort to do it right, you will get a resume that will be very impressive. Your resume should highlight your strengths and avoid being too generic, especially in Spanish speaking resumes. If you have a way of articulating your thoughts in English, your potential employer will appreciate that.By being able to speak to anyone in the company, you will have an advantage over the others in the position. This may include being able to easily communicate with the other employees, which means that you will receive better feedback. It may even mean that you can be able to more easily find jobs within the company, which is something that could be extremely beneficial.Youmay not be able to explain every word that you say, but by being able to include your own unique ideas, you will be able to get the attention of the company. Your willingness to put effort into getting the job will be rewarded with a lot of praise. You will be able to help others with their needs, and if you have a way of making them feel comfortable, you may get a new job, or even a promotion.The perfect Spanish speaking resume does not just stand out in an application; it can also get you the job you are looking for. If you know how to speak the language fluently, this can be one of the best things that you can do. A great resume writing skills are both essential to getting hired.

Stephen Curry Ranks 82nd Among Highest Paid NBA Players

Stephen Curry Ranks 82nd Among Highest Paid NBA Players The Golden State Warriors’ Stephen Curry is not paid like one of the top players in the NBA. However, he has a great perspective on that status, and it comes from his father, Dell Curry, a former NBA player. Stephen Curry, the two-time reigning NBA MVP, is in the final year of a four-year, $44 million extension he signed with the Warriors in 2012. His salary this season â€" $12.1 million â€" ranks 82nd among all NBA players and fourth among his teammates. While the contract has been a steal for the Warriors, it was considered risky for Golden State at the time. Curry was a gifted shooter, but he had been plagued with ankle injuries and hadn’t yet developed into an MVP-caliber player. In a recent interview with Tim Kawakami of The Mercury News, Curry was asked how he dealt with playing with lesser players who made a lot more money. Curry said he kept things in perspective by leaning on some advice his father once gave him. “One thing my pops always told me is you never count another man’s money,” Curry told Kawakami. “It’s what you’ve got and how you take care of it. And if I’m complaining about $44 million over four years, then I’ve got other issues in my life.” Curry added that when he signed the deal, he knew he was taking less than other players but wasn’t going to regret the decision: “I remember sitting in a hotel, at the Ritz-Carlton in Phoenix, right before our opening-night game against the Suns, and sitting with Bob Myers and coach [Mark] Jackson and signing that contract. … My perspective was, ‘Man, I’ll be able to take care of my family with this. Blessed to be able to know I’ll be playing at least in the NBA for four years and see where it goes from there.’ But I literally told myself in that hotel room that day, knowing what the max was, I think at the time was probably, 56 or 58 [million], somewhere in there â€" I think Eric Gordon and guys like that were getting that money â€" I was, ‘You can’t think 20-20 hindsight, go back and worry about what other guys are making.'” While Curry is making $12.1 million at a time when Harrison Barnes, his former teammate, is making nearly twice that ($22.1 million) with the Dallas Mavericks, Curry’s situation could soon be rectified. If Curry re-signs with the Warriors this summer, as expected, he will be eligible for a five-year, $207.4 million contract, the largest in NBA history. His salary next season would jump to $35.7 million and reach about $48 million in the final season. If that happens, you can be certain that other players will be counting Curry’s money. This story originally appeared on Business Insider.

How To Edit Your Overqualified Resume - Work It Daily

How To Edit Your Overqualified Resume - Work It Daily How To Edit Your Overqualified Resume With the job market saturated with highly qualified candidates who have been laid off from jobs they’ve held for years, it’s no secret many are now interested in applying for jobs that may fall below their level of expertise. Related: 3 Resume Tips To Avoid Appearing Overqualified If you are a candidate who may be overqualified for a job you’re considering, think about making adjustments to your resume to help you get the job. How To Edit Your Overqualified Resume Here are a few tips for editing your overqualified resume: Subtract “Too-Impressive” Job History And Education Believe it or not, it’s perfectly acceptable to leave information off of your resume that might be considered too impressive. For instance, if you have worked as a marketing executive but now want to apply for a job as a human resources manager, you can leave the executive information off, especially since the new and old positions aren’t in the same field. Same goes for education. If you have a doctorate, you don’t have to add it to your resume. You can postpone any discussion about this qualification for your interview where you can take the time to explain why you’re looking for a job that doesn’t require as much of a challenge. Add Extra Details About History That Help You Qualify On the other hand, it’s a great idea to elaborate on various aspects of your career that can help you better qualify for a position. Take time to think about what made you a great manager at a previous point in your career. What caused you to excel and advance to the level you reached prior to leaving your last job? As a manager, you’re sure to have had great accomplishments to list on your resume. Be sure to go into detail about what made you great thenâ€"and what will make you exceptional in the position you’re applying for now. The goal of writing your resume is to make sure you get called for an interview. Unfortunately, this can be difficult to do if you get tossed into the denial pile because an employer is worried you’ll become bored with your job and flee as soon as you can. By adjusting your resume accordingly to get the interview, you have given yourself the opportunity to sort out the remaining details face-to-face. This post was originally published at an earlier date. Related Posts What It Really Means When You’re ‘Overqualified’ Overqualified For The Job: What Are Your Options? Overqualified? So What?   Photo Credit: Shutterstock Have you joined our career growth club?Join Us Today!

Gender Inequality Is Linked to the Deaths of Girls under 5, Study Says

Gender Inequality Is Linked to the Deaths of Girls under 5, Study Says Its no secret that gender inequality adversely affects women who are underpaid, objectified, discriminated against and more. And, in 2015, research suggests that 5.9 million children died before they even turned five years old one of the most harrowing effects that gender disparity has with regards to health treatment.The study found that, in countries wzu siche women are undervalued, young girls have a lower chance of survival. Gender inequality is linked to more deaths among girls under five, compared with boys of the saatkorn age and this is especially true in lower- and middle-income countries.We are not sure we can generalize these findings however, at a country level, the highest gender inequality led to more girls dying, said lead researcher Valentina Gallo, professor of epidemiology at Queen Mary University of Londons Centre for Primary Care and Public Health. These girls are also further exposed to this risk via their mothers, who may themselves be penalized and valued less than mothers of sons and less able to provide for their daughters.The research looked at sex-specific child mortality rates in 195 countries via UNICEFs database of child mortality worldwide and the UNs Gender Inequality Index. And the results found that girls have a statistical advantage over boys when it comes to survival, but in sexist societies that value boys more than girls, the advantage is reduced, and girls are actually dying.It is surprising that gender inequality is so strongly associated with mortality there is something going on that makes girls severely more discriminated than boys in many regions in the world, Gallo said.Whats going on includes unsafe practices such as female genital mutilation and reduced access to basic health care. For example, girls are vaccinated at lower rates than boys.This isnt the first time that research has suggested a correlation between infant and child mortality an d gender discrimination, but this is the first study to examine how girls and boys are impacted separately. The researchers also noted that the many studies surrounding this topic report disproportionately fewer female deaths, as families in some countries are less likely to record female deaths.Meanwhile, in countries where theres more gender equality, theres actually been economic growth, among other benefits. For example, a report published by the Organization for Economic Cooperation and Development (OECD) credited gender equality with boosting economic growth in Denmark, Finland, Iceland, Norway and Sweden over the past 50 years. The report, Is the Last Mile the Longest? Economic Gains from Gender Equality in Nordic Countries, looked into the impact of family-friendly policies implemented across the Nordic region since the 1960s. And it found that gains in gender equality as a result of implementing these policies are tied to boosting regions GDP per capita between 10 and 20 pe rcent.Scientists suggest that more research needs to be done however, the common theme hasnt yet wavered Gender inequality is dangerous, while gender equality leads to better outcomes for everyone.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a feminist, a freelance journalist and an adventure aficionado with an affinity for impulsive solo travel. She spends her days writing about womens empowerment from around the world. You can follow her work on her blog, HerReport.org, and follow her journeys on Instagram her_report, Twitterherreport and Facebook.

The One Best System You Need to Be Using for Best Resume Writing 2018

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